“I don’t want that one, NeeNee, it’s
different.” Those were the words spoken by my seven year old granddaughter,
Olivia, as I handed her a handful of fresh cherries.
“What’s wrong with it”, I asked?
“It doesn’t look like the rest of
the cherries; it’s not the same color.” Without hesitation, she exchanged the
cherry for one that resembled all the others. “There”, she said, “now they all
look alike”.
It was an innocent, yet thought provoking, statement that
triggered a red flag. Might she be swayed to take the road less traveled in
life because it is wasn’t a popular choice? I wondered if she viewed sameness as a validation of acceptance within
her peer group.
I tend to be OCD, so maybe I overplayed the whole cherry conversation;
but one thing is certain, following the masses to “fit in” has never been an
option for me. I like the idea of traveling the road less traveled. There is
excitement in bushwhacking my own path in life and living with a fearless
desire to see what lies ahead. Of course, blazing new trails doesn’t come without
opposition or obstacles.
There are things to consider before taking the road less
traveled.
1.
The road less traveled is narrow and often
lonely. You won’t earn popularity votes.
2.
You will encounter plenty of people who didn’t
follow their dreams, or gave up; I call them dead soldiers. Avoid their
discouragement and stay focused on the road you’ve taken.
3.
Don’t expect everyone to understand your
choices.
4.
Failure is not the end. Those on the popular
track are waiting for some miracle to land in their lap. Guess what? Miracles
don’t happen without hard work.
5.
Set your own challenges. Become the CEO of your
own life and set goals different from others.
6.
Success isn’t measured by time; it’s measured by
experiences and opportunities that allow you to know what works best for you.
7.
Understand that trailblazers disrupt nature;
they overturn rocks, cut down trees and move dirt. If they can’t remove the
obstacle they build bridges over or around it. Sheer determination cuts through
barriers and obstacles.
8.
Taking the road less traveled is for leaders;
they point the way, take the risks, and have a vision for turning their dreams
into reality.
9.
Know your passion and gifts. You need to know
with absolute certainty that the path you’re blazing is the right one for you.
10.
Trailblazers create a path where none existed
before.
As
an online entrepreneur and manufacturer for over 15 years, I’ve learned
valuable lessons from the school of hard knocks, both personally and
professionally. One thing is certain; an individual deemed an odd-colored
cherry, regardless of age, has two choices. They can let sameness validate them or embrace their uniqueness and take the
road less traveled. I want my
granddaughter to understand she doesn’t have to be like all the other cherries
in the (peer) pack; or, stifled by other people’s expectations and limiting
thoughts.
When
the time comes for Olivia to venture out on her own, NeeNee will be there with
a shovel, ax, hammer and backhoe. She can count on me to mentor, saw trees,
chop thorny bushes and build bridges as she blazes her trail in life. And may
she find a bowl of odd-colored cherries at the end of her trail; a reminder she
took the road less taken.